Once you have decided to take initiative can report you more advantages than dislike’s time to take action. The first step is to start a conversation or rather, know how to start. As there is no more correctly than others to do so, I will show you the 5 Habits of those who take the initiative.
It is a very simple remedy. I propose an example: A girl sees a guy who likes to shop and want to start a conversation. The key would be to use the same context to start a conversation:
-Hello! I’ve noticed that you have very tastefully dressed and sure you can help me. Which of these two dresses you think I look better?
Dresses above the reasons why people do not want to take the initiative in social events. But the paradox is that it is precisely these fears or insecurities that you can use to your advantage to have more initiative.
Imagine you want to ask your boss increased and that situation will generate a lot of insecurity.You can use that fear to your advantage and show that the fact of being there means that you are able to cope with adverse situations (a quality much valued boss, by the way):
Mr. Fernandez Hello! The truth is I’m a little nervous, but the fact of being nervous means that this is important to me. I wanted to tell you …
It simply is not say your name or shaking hands or kissing couple. Introduce you to the other involves giving information about who you are, what you do in life and what things you like.In general, make yourself known. Talk about communicating emotions and avoid cold facts because then people will not know anything about you really. Notice the difference between communicating emotionally and talk Factual:
-Hello! My name is Maria, I’m an architect, I live in Pamplona and have two children.
-Hello! My name is Mary and for two years I work in architecture because I love to see how they come out of nowhere incredible buildings and that allows me to create within a structural standards. I was born in Pamplona and I crazy city for its gardens and nature.
What if you think you’ve known your partner more?
Logically initiative is key to have open talks for yourself. This is important to master the art of asking as the art of reporting without being asked. Is interested by asking others what they do in a given site, their interests and tastes.
It is important that you consider that many times people do not return the question, so give without getting the information have requested will be crucial. And beware of believing that if others do not ask is because they do not care about your life, you probably also know how to take the initiative.
I’ll give an example: you’re in a profession related to your sitting while waiting to enter a congress symposium you realize that your side is a seated person. Start the conversation using a question and give rise to a conversation:
-Sorry! Is the first time you come to the World Congress of Agricultural Engineering?
No, it’s actually the second. – But do not you answer the question returns.
– Well, I is the first time I come and do not know many people. By the way, what is your specialty?You reply you without you even been asked and give rise to more conversation.
The saying goes that nobody is bitter sweet. And it is true. It is very unlikely that a person responds poorly to a compliment and that’s important to say what we value it.
What you get so I feel better at your side, and most likely the same way with smile, get it back in the future. Give positive emotions to others is a fundamental ability of social skills that can give rise to a conversation.
Suppose you are on the terrace of a cafe waiting to take morning coffee before going to class. You have not asked a waiter approaches and carrying glasses that fit well and that you like to you. You could start a conversation as follows:
– I wanted a latte, please. By the way, those glasses you wear you look great. It’s like they were made for you. Where should you buy?
Now you know why people find it difficult to take the initiative, what benefits it can bring you to you and have 5 tools to face social situations you just have to get to work and stop waiting for others to give the first step.